Welcome everyone to our first blog post for P.S. Love Mom💜, a place where busy moms are encouraged to put themselves first while sharing ideas, tips, and advice on how to maintain their busy lives and homes without losing themselves in the process.
From Mom to Firefighter
If you’ve ever felt as if you're going through your day like a chicken with its head cut off or felt like changing your name from Mom to Firefighter because most of your day consists of running from one situation to the next, then I’m here to tell you you’re not alone. If you have more than one child, as I do with six, those fires can quickly multiply.
I started my busy-mom adventure at 18, with one child, no clue, and alone. By 21, I met my husband, and by 22, we had our first child together. Having six children by the time I turned 30 and having to raise a family at a young age, in hindsight, was a big undertaking, and many times I felt like we were in over our heads.
I'm now 50, and we've been together over thirty years, raising our six children. I wouldn't change any page of my story.
Are You Stumbling Through Life as a Mom?
For the first few years, I worked hard and stumbled through the long, busy days of motherhood. Committed to the idea of being a successful mom and wife with a support system of myself and my husband.
I spent a lot of time living in chaos. I didn’t embrace delegation and felt like a failure when I couldn’t measure or see my success at the end of a day.
Although some days were better than others, we would go to work, come home, have dinner as a family, with everyone going to bed at a reasonable hour. While other days consisted of pizza and movies, bedtime was when everyone fell asleep. My Dr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde routine went on for a while, and my poor husband never knew what to expect when he came home.
The World Isn’t Coming to an End
In the year 2000, I had my third child and quickly realized the world wasn’t coming to an end, and my flying car was still years in the making. I decided to commit to taking control of my life, getting organized, investing in myself, and stopping procrastinating.
You see, I understand what it’s like to be a first-time, second-time, third-time mom. Well, you get it, and at some point, if you're not in control, you may feel like you’re drowning and desperately needing to come up for air. You find yourself looking like a duck, cool and calm above water, but paddling like hell underneath
Are You a Good Mom?
Everyone wants to be a good mom and take care of their family, but let's face it, there are a lot of moving parts to making that machine run smoothly. Plus, you pile on all the responsibilities that go with it, whether you're sick or tired, by the end of the day, you're expected to complete this noble quest, with a smile and grace.
But some days that's just unrealistic, and all you want is to be left alone. You see, running 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, with little downtime comes at a cost, whether it's physically, mentally, or emotionally, and we all know what the cost of a sick day is, especially if you haven’t planned for it.
Nudges With Love
I created P.S. Love, Mom as an outlet for all busy moms with helpful ideas, advice and nudges with love to challenge you and to let you know you're not alone. It's ok to reset, recharge, and put yourself first. As my children got older, and trust me, yours will too!
You'll come full circle to a time when your firefighting days aren't as hectic, and you're left with an image of yourself that you have to rediscover, or one that you've nurtured throughout the years, eagerly anticipating your next chapter.
These posts aren't to gauge whether you're a good mom or tell you how to be one. They’re shared thoughts, gentle nudges with love, and real-life reflections from one mom to another. My hope is that you find something here, big or small, that speaks to you and supports your journey!
There’s no perfect formula for life or motherhood—what works for someone else may not feel right for you. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and trust your own path. Above all, never forget that the love you show others should be reflected and multiplied by the love you show yourself.
P.S. Love, Mom 💜💜💜